I remember when I was a teenager and my cousins from the US came over to visit my family in Adelaide.
I was really impacted by the great family culture they had. The siblings (there were 3 siblings – two girls and a boy) all got along so well, the parents were very much in love (after some 20 years in marriage) and there was a fun & respectful nature between the parents and the children. I remember thinking to myself, wow – these cousins of mine are a truly happy family!
I was reminded of this last month when we had Bob Beaumont speak at our “Breakfast at the Next Level” event. I have had the privilege of meeting some of his key people and once again I noticed this “magical” element – although this time it was present in employees. The team that Bob Beaumont has built around him is like one big happy and proud family.
You see, culture is everything. Family culture, work culture, and the culture between successful business partnerships. How do you pinpoint exactly what makes a great culture? It is very simple…culture is created from thoughts and emotions.
Thoughts are have a tangible impact on us. I am sure your recall being in the environment of a very negative person only to be left feeling “drained” at the end of the conversation! Similarly, what an amazing feeling it is when you catch up with a great friend who makes you laugh, gives you genuine compliments, always looks out to help you with any issue or desire, and says good things about you when your back is turned. You see, that is culture- it all begins with us.
Leaders create culture by managing their thoughts and projecting the right emotions (compassion, strength, love, courage, passion, fun) toward the people around them.
Most people are not aware that their thoughts affect the way they feel as well as the way other people feel when they interact with them. Once you realise that; you know that you have only two choices – the choice to convey positive energy or the choice to convey negative energy. And each of those energies has the corresponding thoughts that come with them. It is impossible to speak negatively about someone and at the same time truly feel love & compassion for them….try it and see!
Leaders know how to make themselves congruent in thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. They know that people with similar thoughts & emotions will want to be around them. Similarly, the people who want to dwell in negative thoughts and emotions will end up being like oil is to water and will leave the leader’s presence. Then of course, the leader fills this vacuum with a new person who thinks and feels similarly to them.
This is exactly how a culture is developed in your workplace or business. It all begins with your own personal development as a leader. Change yourself and you will in due course change the people around you – they will either change to be like you or leave and be replaced with others like you.
Personal development and business success go hand in hand. It is the journey of a leader to develop his/her thinking, master emotions, convey positive energy to their people, and in doing so, create a healthy happy productive culture.
Personal development and family success are similar. Unity between life partners and unity with your children are determined by your ability to convey positive thoughts and emotions. You can cultivate this by spending quality and quantity time together focussing on making one another happy.
And this blog is just a the tip of the iceberg, I hope to see you at our next Breakfast at the Next Level whereby I will be sharing with you all the important aspects of creating a positive culture – whether it is in your workplace, business or in your family. When you have a great culture, you are basically creating an environment that is a happy one. As we all know, life is not long enough for us to waste our time on negativity.
I encourage you to develop a simple habit I started many years ago – begin the day with an act of kindness. Find someone as early as you can in the day to do something special to…perhaps it is greeting your neighbour, sending a happy birthday SMS, or offering to make a coffee or tea. Like attracts like so practice the behaviour you want to attract more of each day.
Live with passion, stay on your life’s purpose, and always be at peace.
Chairman & Co-Founder SOL Results